Eric of course has his own story to tell, and I hope that one day he will also share his side of this journey as I am sure it will be filled with very different details, struggle, opinions and his own convictions and revelation. For now, I can only comment on my view into his part of our story. Eric is a man of prayer! He is always desperate to hear what God wants to say about every are of live and seldom moves until He is sure God has told him to. What I love most about Eric is that he is authentic, what you see if what you get. He does his level best to be a good husband and father but most important to him is that he is a man of God.
I don’t recall how it came about but during 2015 Eric started exploring going to bible school to do his BA in theology so that he could be ordained and become a ‘real’ minister. As his desire to study grew he explored several universities and took advice from our pastor. Together they agreed on the course that Eric should do and after several meetings our pastor and our church agreed to support Eric on his journey but spiritually and financially. Eric was over the moon and signed up for university and began exploring Baptist ministry. I have never seen Eric so happy and fulfilled as I did during this year. He was doing exactly what he was meant to me doing and I recognised this.
Sadly, I could have done better as his wife. I made several mistakes along the way that made his journey much more difficult than it had to be. We were sitting in a coffee shop discussing the way forward with our pastor. Eric suggested taking his studies from part time to full time so that it could get done quicker and get back to earning a salary. I agreed to support him and had no problem with him going full time, in fact I preferred it that way. So I said, “Don’t worry, I can take care of us financially while he is studying. I am making enough money in my business to support us.“
Not long after that meeting Eric had a dream. He dreamed that I was flying an aeroplane and the cockpit area started to crack. He knew I was going to crash. After discussing his dream I asked how we could prevent it but neither of us could find the answer. We knew that the aeroplane was my business and that is was going to crash. I was frightened but didn’t know what to do.
Shortly after the dream my company did start to fall apart. I went from a really good, steady income to almost losing the business. It seemed to happen overnight. My whole world was be falling apart. We got behind in our bills and tithing became impossible because the money was leaving our account before we could even touch it. We went from doing really well to doing really poorly. Everything I had built seemed to be crashing down around me. God was silent until I begged him to show me what was happening!
Pride. He showed me that I had become proud. My income and my husband’s lack of income had caused a terribly imbalance in our life. I hated that he wasn’t earning and that I was responsible for us. I desperately didn’t want to feel this way, I wanted to support him while he was at university and I wanted to do it well. But I wasn’t doing it well, not at all. And so the company continued its steady downward spiral and I repented of every possible thing I could think of. Nothing changed. The crash was inevitable.
Seven months passed and I held onto the ‘yoke’ in the cockpit for dear life! Things were not good but I held it together both in the business and at home. I was preparing for a crash because I really didn’t know how to prevent it.
Then out of the blue when I was praying one day God reminded me of what I said that day in the coffee shop, “Don’t worry, I can take care of us financially“, and he showed me how that one little sentence was causing all this trouble. I had repented of pride in general but not of saying these specific words. Our words create our world and so when I said these words I took hold of the yolk of the aeroplane from God and I became our provider. Clearly I was not a very good provider. As soon as I saw the power in the words I had spoken, and what they had done, I repented and asked God to please be our provider again. I realised that all that time I was standing in the way of God’s blessing. As soon as I got out of the way the cash flow started to return and I started to get back to steadily building the business with God’s help and for his glory. Everything didn’t suddenly snap into place but I felt the weight of my words had lifted and I was back to following God’s lead and trusting in His provision, not my own.